Effective Parenting by Dave Bernard

HONEST PARENTING ============================

WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD? --------------------------------------------------- The arrival of a baby is just the starting preparations involved in raising a child, as we all know that parenting is actually a life long commitment. Proper parenting skills are a major requirement in this lifelong child rearing preparation process and you have to be sure that you are equipped with good parenting skills.

THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENT. --------------------------------------------------- Parenting can be compared to riding a roller coaster, where throughout the way you will experience sky high thrills and even sometimes heart breaking downhill's.

HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING. --------------------------------------------------- > As a parent, try to rediscover the inner child in you - to do this, you have to step inside and be in your children shoes. Try to remember what it was like to be a kid again, this process is called as "rediscovering your inner child". You must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to just relax and get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs. For you to understand the issues at hand with regards to your children, try putting yourself your children shoes for a change. Try to see things from your children perspective and you'll then gain a realization and a understanding about how they are feeling and why they are rebelling. Good parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child's needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child's eyes and develop a solution that will please you both.

PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB. --------------------------------------------------- Parenting is the most underpaid job ever and you do not even earn anything from being a parent. Even after all of your children have grown up, they will still come to you for advice. Parents seeing and watching over the years where his/her child's strikes out their own to become independent and self-aware is incomparable. To be a parent, this requires you to walk in a fine thin line.

TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE --------------------------------------------------- To be happy (blissfully) is what most parents want for their child. Now that your children are adults, they too understand that everyone is responsible for the way they built their lives. A child will begin learning things like carrying their own plates from the table to your dishwasher, placing items into the grocery cart (only with adult supervision) and these are simple and excellent takes for a two-year old to accomplish. Most of the time, it is out of you own desire for materialistic pressures, or to be liked and sometimes fervently wish that your child may be spared of the things that you did not experience as a child and as an action you would want to do your best to give them nothing but the best of everything.

GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD. --------------------------------------------------- Instead you could put it this way, "Would you do your chore/s before or after school today?", in order to gain cooperation from your child. To gain more cooperation from their child, you must always use positive communication - You have to try phrasing your request or command in a much positive way as opposed to a negative way. To be able to get to the next place with your child, make it fun - If your child is the type that has troubles with changes and becomes oppositional, you can ask him/her to hop like a kangaroo to the door, or even have their favorite thing waiting in the car for them thus providing cooperation from you child.

COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS. --------------------------------------------------- Do you attend parent evenings (PTA's)? A child may not always mention this meeting so you should be an active parent within the child's school. All of us went through that stage where we all wanted to be just like all the other famous kids. Give your child some freedom, so that they can start learning on their own and how to do things alone. We never wanted to stand out like a dweeb or a sore loser to be laughed at.

MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME. --------------------------------------------------- Arranging family dinners actually depends on how chaotic your current family schedule is, this will then help you determine how great of a challenge it will be for you to change your current method thinking.

THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME: --------------------------------------------------- > After finding that your family is now beginning to enjoy the family quality time and are beginning to look forward to your family spending more time together, they may even ask that family dinners be extended. If your family want to spend more time together by extending night time dinners, then you will know for sure that indeed good memories are made. Always remember that it's important to always start small to make family changes. Your family will need time to adapt and to absorb this new family dinning time experience. It's better to make gradual routine changes as opposed to major drastic changes that will certainly bring about all kinds of objections amongst your family. If family bonding time begins your family members feel good then they are most likely to want to experience the family bonding time again so keep the conversation light, bubbly, happy, inspirational and upbeat for the whole family. > Parents have to first establish some positive uplifting points or topics for dinner table conversations. Avoid criticisms, arguing or squabbling during family dinners.

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